I was going to do a summer self-care series; I had it planned, and I announced it. I needed to get out some of the clutter and toxic people, and I wanted to talk about the importance of cleaning out the non-physical things like social media and your phone apps and emails. However, I postponed posting anything about them because of the tragedy surrounding George Floyd. It didn’t feel right to promote my own content with everything going on, so I highlighted the content that supported the Black Lives Matter movement. I was debating still posting the rest of the series, but I don’t feel passionate about telling you to clean up your life when the world is essentially burning all around us.
Instead, I wanted to come on here to talk about the importance of listening to those educating about the systemic racism and injustice towards the black community. Now, I am not an expert, I simply want to address the need for these conversations.
My best friend and I think about politics differently. I am starting with that because we pride our friendship on being able to talk about politics, religion, and all the taboo things without losing sight of each other’s humanity. She is my soul sister, and even though I don’t agree with her at times, it is only my job to educate and not judge. She has admitted that I have made her see things a different way, and she has shown me that there is more to people than their political party.
I encourage you to talk to your friends about politics, but do not be hostile when you do. I know it’s hard to not get upset about things you are passionate about. I always try to remember that it is not always the person screaming that gets hears, sometimes it is the person being the quietest who has the most to say. Listen, show respect, and demand respect when sharing differing opinions. The only way to get educated is to shut up and listen to others. The way we have all been trying to do on social media the past week.
Not only have I been having conversations with my best friend, I have been having them with my family. They are only now beginning to see a problem with the racism in this country. We know as a Latin community we talk about the racism and injustice we face for speaking a different language, wearing certain things, or speaking with an accent, but we do not talk about the racism in our own people.
I know my family always comments whether a baby is guerito or prietito (lighter skinned or darker skinned). THAT HAS GOT TO GO. Why should the baby’s skin color ever be brought up when describing a child? It shouldn’t. We are the generation that must end that dialogue. We must stop thinking that there is a downside to being darker skinned, having curly hair, or dark brown eyes.
I have been talking to my family about the importance of the Black Lives Matter movement. I have told them that we have to stand together. “Tu lucha es mi lucha.” Talk to your familia about what is going on and the monumental shift Latinos still have to make in their thinking and in our culture.
Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I know with everything going on it can get overwhelming, but don’t let this be a phase. Let this be only the start to a generations long dialogue in the latinx community. El cambio empieza con cada uno de nosotros. Have a great week everyone. Stay safe.